This weekend I got the incredible honor to witness two of my friends getting married. To witness a marriage that I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, will last 60+ years (life lasting).
I am going to be completely honest – I cried. Not sad tears, but tears of joy. Tears of me witnessing a holy thing, a thing that was set up to happen before the earth was made…something that shows Christ’s love to us.

Whenever I go to weddings I can’t help but daydream about my future wedding. What will it be like? Who will my wife be? Who all will be there?! Who will be my best man? How will it all work out?!?! – Just so many questions. Then a few questions popped up in my head (I think it was God trying to say something) – What are you doing to lead your wife NOW? – What are you doing that is keeping you pure for your wife NOW? – What are you doing to encourage your wife NOW?

Talk about some booming questions – how am I honoring and leading my wife NOW. I am not married, not even dating anyone…but I am still called to be a man of integrity and a leader. To lead my wife spiritually and provide for her and protect her. What am I doing NOW?

What can we do to honor our future wife, or husband? Pray, journal to them, grow ourselves in our walk with Christ? Yes – all of these things would be GREAT things.
I plan on doing all of them (well, the 3rd on I am already doing…and I hope you are as well).

I am going to start journaling to my wife – what is happening in my day, what I am struggling with, what I am praying for her. How I am learning to be a better leader for her…etc.

But what about those who are married? Just because you are hitched doesn’t mean you don’t keep pursuing her. Romance her, take her out on cute dates, try to redo your first date. Take a roadtrip with her somewhere you both have always wanted to go…Why not?

What can we do to be better husbands or wives? What can we do to honor our future husband or wife if we are single?



  • Dear John,

    Thank you for your post. I am on a similar path as you, my friend. I know that God is preparing me for the man of God of my future, and have been shown that he still works on his heart. I have read quite a few devotionals on the subject for men and women, just to get perspective. But, some of your questions on a man of God’s perspective, I had not seen or heard or read yet….your post was a first read, and new questions, ideas, and fresh perspective. And, such as you I had started to keep a journal…for this subject on and off for a while and have written several letters, notes, and so forth to my future husband. In ruth it states in 3:18 Then Naomi said, “Wait, my daughter, until you find out what happens. For the man will not rest until the matter is settled today.” And also seem to help me sometimes to be patience upon god’s will, because as women we are called to wait upon God…and the men will not rest until the matter is settle. In other words….the guys struggle with waiting just as much as the woman! But, you and I both know God’s best is so worth the wait, and getting prepare for. I hope this blessed you in some way my friend! I felt a little tug on my heart to share a little today with you.

    Your friend(truly),
    Terri A.T.

  • Good information. We added praying for our child’s future spouse. God has a perfect plan for each of us. Intentional prayer and Christian maturity are great steps to ensure following that plan. Thanks for sharing.

  • This is a very awesome post bro! God bless you! Theres a book you should read called When God Writes Your Love Story by Erice and Lesley Ludy. Im not usually one to read books about things i believe, only the bible. But this book shows Gods view on it! It truly opened my eyes and blessed me! And i write my future husband as well! :)

    God bless!

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