Sex. Glorious sex. Holy, godly, fun…sex.
Ohhh yeah that’s right. I said it.
Did it make your goosebumps show up?
Did it make you cringe?
We have such a skewed misconception of what sex is. Especially in our Christian cultures.
We have always learned that ‘it is bad, don’t do it until you’re married’.
But the whole ‘don’t do it!!’ lesson gives many of us a bad taste of what exactly sex is.
Sex is a God made thing.
It was created to image the intimacy we are to have with Christ.
Not that we have sex with God/Christ – but that the closeness we have with God / Christ should be intimate just like our relationships with our wife or husband.
I had the great honor to go to a video recording of a conference that my friend Ryan Dalgliesh [Follow him!] is going to be putting on in the coming months.
He talked, first, about biblical brides – what they are called to, how they’re to act, how they’re to be.
Then…sex. Lots of sex. An hour of talking about sex.
He said a lot of things that stuck with me. But one of the major ones was this (I paraphrase):
Sex, and the desires to have sex, are not bad! God gave us sex to enjoy, to image him and to bring our spouse closer to Him. It is a weird thing to think about. But we are imaging our relationship with Christ when we have sex. That being said, our desires to have sex are not bad either (for all the single people in the room)…we SHOULD have that desire, just as we should have the desire to go deeper with Christ. We just must wait to awaken those desires until the appointed time…AKA: after marriage. We should honor, love and respect sex. If we treat sex as if it is dirty all the way up to our marriage bed, then we do our marriage bed a great injustice.
Sex is to be enjoyed. It is to be liked. Sex is good! If used properly, sex will bring a married couple closer to Christ, and will keep you and your spouse from sinning. How crazy is that?!
Ryan also said something funny, and awesome. He said that his concern is that we should have a vigorous and fun marriage bed. How awesome is that? If my youth pastor would have told my 13 year old self that he ‘wants me to have a vigorous, fun and exciting marriage bed’ – I’d probably listen to him more. Rather than him putting a discolored, untrue, image of what sex is in my head.
Sex is good. Sex was invented by God, to be enjoyed with your spouse. When you are in Christ, and in a marriage covenant, and have sex, you are glorifying Christ! It is a worship session right there…in your bed! NEAT!
Now, married couples. Go worship. Worship gladly!
Unmarried couples (including myself) – refrain from it. Keep those passions, but be careful with them. Don’t let them take root…guard your heart & marriage bed, so that you one day may be able to have a ‘vigorous, fun and exciting marriage bed…’